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The silent killer: How people pleasing is destroying your life

Posted: December 11th, 2025

by Matthew Strebinos,

Psychologist, (MPsych(Clin), BPsych(Hons)

Many of us try to keep everyone happy, but constantly pleasing others can quietly take over your life, leaving you burnt out, unheard, and disconnected from yourself.

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Why we don’t change naturally: How blind spots keep you stuck

Posted: January 29th, 2026

by Matthew Strebinos,

Psychologist, (MPsych(Clin), BPsych(Hons)

Have you ever looked back on a situation and thought, “How did I not see that at the time?” Maybe it was a pattern in a relationship you didn’t recognise, a habit that kept you stuck, or a thought that felt like fact. This perfectly highlights the impact of a scotoma.

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Control what you can control: How adopting an internal focus for change is a game changer

Posted: March 3rd, 2026

by Matthew Strebinos,

Psychologist, (MPsych(Clin), BPsych(Hons)

A major mental shift that can break hopelessness is in understanding locus of control. By focusing on what you can influence, rather than what you can’t, builds agency, resilience, and real momentum for lasting change

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